Today, we look at the fourth of The 10 Greatest Gifts principles outlined by Steven W. Vannoy in his 1994 book. You will recall that we examined “growing your self-esteem” the last time. These principles also apply very well to adults working in the business world and can help us work better with others and understand, for ourselves, how we can be most productive and effective in every walk of life.
What is the principle of self-esteem? Vannoy defines it like this:
“I want to set a model of balance – emotional, physical, spiritual, and intellectual balance. I want them to know that the journey of life includes both pain and joy, work and play. Each one teaches you about the other. They all keep a life healthy and productive.”
It is the rare person that has achieved perfect balance in all aspects of their life. We tend to focus on areas where problems exist, or on things we particularly like to do, or on activities we feel generate the most value. But, as you can see from Vannoy’s statement above, we all need to understand that life brings highs and lows, good and bad, happy and sad. We cannot stay on one plane all the time. And, we must ensure that we re-balance our lives occasionally to ensure that one area of our life does not overbear or overburden all the others.
I think we all realize that there are times when things just normally get out-of-balance. For instance, when you have a huge or significant project than needs your full attention for two weeks. Other areas may suffer during this time, but a critical project might cause short-term pain. However, we should not attempt to sustain a badly out-of-balance situation because it can hamper others areas of our lives. And, when you do get out-of-balance, it is good to have someone in your life that can objectively help you see it.
I think we have all heard the saying, “No one has ever said on their deathbed that they wish they had spent more time in the office.” Or, this one about raising children, “The days are long, but the years are short. Enjoy them!” These both speak to maintaining a proper work/life balance. However, we can falter in other areas and ways, just as well. Tomorrow on The Porch, you will see “The Balance Continuum” – an illustration on balance that reflects a number of common attributes or behaviors that can get out-of-balance. So, you can look forward to that.
For today, consider the four areas of your life that Vannoy mentions above – emotional, physical, spiritual, and intellectual. Are you properly balanced in each area? Are there things you need to consider changing to re-balance your life? Do you have someone you trust that can help you see your blind-spots?
Have a splendid day! This could be our best yet… at least it could be a top-ten day. Watch for it!