Stewardian fantasies

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Steve and I have been friends for over thirty years now. We have quite a bit in common, including a love for sports. When we are together, we often talk about “what if’s” relating to how we would do in certain situations, though we tend to focus on sporting events. Steve’s last name is Steward, so, naturally, we have coined these as Stewardian fantasies. We can make up an endless list of these that can keep us entertained for hours (much to the chagrin of our wives, at times). Anyway, I thought it might be of interest to some of you to ponder these yourselves. (There is a point in this, but you need to read all the way to the end.)

Steve and I usually start these fantasies by throwing out some ridiculous wager. For example, would you bet your car for a chance to win $1M? Or, would you do _____ for $1M? OK, so here are a few for you to consider:

Would you bet your car (or house or $10,000 or whatever) to win $1M if you could…

  1. Make contact batting against Sandy Koufax (Hall of Fame baseball pitcher from the 60’s for the Los Angeles Dodgers) in ten pitches?
  2. Last one round with Muhammad Ali (in his prime) in a boxing match without getting knocked out?
  3. Beat Usain Bolt, world record holder in the 100m dash, if he gave you a 50m head start?
  4. Get a hole-in-one if you could hit shots all day long on a 125 yard golf hole?
  5. Make 50 basketball free throws in a row if you had all day long to try?
  6. Kick a 30 yard field goal in less than 50 attempts?
  7. Allow fewer than 25 goals in an NHL hockey game if you were the goalie?
  8. Allow fewer than 10 goals playing a World Cup soccer game for any team if you were the goalie?
  9. Guarding Stephen Curry (considered the best basketball player in the NBA), could you hold him to fewer than 100 points in a regular, full basketball game?

Or, would you do any of the following for a straight $1M in cash?

  1. Stand knee deep in the middle of the Okefenokee swamp in Florida all night without any weapons, phone, or available help until morning?
  2. Ride a bicycle without brakes down a mountain road?
  3. Sing the Star Spangled Banner at next year’s Super Bowl game?

Or, if you had unlimited time (e.g., no job or other obligations), could you, in exactly one year, do any of these for $1M?

  1. Learn to play a new musical instrument well enough to be considered an expert?
  2. Learn to play golf well enough to score below par at Augusta National golf course?
  3. Get a book, song, or poem written and published?
  4. Learn to re-assemble a completely disassembled car, then start it and drive it away on your first attempt after re-assembly?
  5. Gather eight of your friends and play an entire 162 game baseball season… could you win even one game?

I have to admit, thinking about and discussing these hypothetical “fantasies” are fun, but the end result is nothing productive. However, the process of using your imagination does often stimulate you to try something you have been fearful to try or something you formerly thought impossible. For example:

  • Have you ever considered starting your own business, but either didn’t know how to start or were afraid to try? Imagine the possibilities. Why not give it a try?
  • Have you ever avoided saying something because you were afraid of the answer? I have attended four funerals or visitations in just the last 3 months and have developed an even greater appreciation for the fragility of life and time. If there is something on your heart than someone needs to hear, why not say it today?
  • Have you been wanting to learn that new skill, start a new hobby, or take that trip you’ve always wanted to take? What are you waiting for?
  • Have you avoided taking even small risks for fear of the consequences? Most, if not all, successful people have taken significant risks in their lives. Today might be the day to step out of your comfort zone.
  • Do you know you need to make a significant change in your life or lifestyle, but have delayed it? Do you miss more of your kids’ games, concerts, or events than you make? Are you overdue call your parents, friends, or others?

What is your fantasy today? If you can imagine it, you can accomplish it… if you are willing to work for it and take the risk. Go for it! Today could be your best day yet… or at least the best day yet to try something new.

The art, and beauty, of compromise

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Savannah, Georgia, is a beautiful place! It is a city full of history that has been preserved and protected for us to enjoy today. In 1733, the newly inhabited city adopted a city plan championed by General James Oglethorpe that utilized city squares (e.g., green spaces for enjoyment and community) as the centerpieces for its neighborhoods. As the city grew and expanded, twenty-four squares were developed. Twenty-one of these still exist today and hold much of the beauty for which Savannah is known.

According to a tour guide driving a trolley around the historic district on our recent trip*, when automobiles came into prominence in the city, many citizens wanted to demolish the squares because they were outmoded in that new modern age. It simply took too long to drive around each of these squares as drivers navigated around the city. However, city planners and the advocates for eliminating the squares compromised. Instead of cutting roads through these squares effectively destroying them, they agreed to round the corners of many of them which allowed the squares to be retained, yet better accommodate the need for speed. As a result, we still can enjoy the squares today. And, it is doubtful that Savannah would have retained its place as a city of beauty without these tree-lined squares.

Compromise… so easy to say, but so hard to do! We lose so many opportunities to make the world a better place when we insist on “getting our way” with things. Sometimes, you wonder if there will ever be another piece of legislation through Congress that is bipartisan. We have all seen families split, friendships lost, deals forfeited, and opportunities wasted because of a lack of compromise.

So, what are the key components in the “art of compromise”? I think of 5 key things that, when done, will increase the odds significantly of a meaningful compromise:

  1. Willingness to listen to the other viewpoint – As a beginning point, it is important for both sides to understand the other. To do so, each side must pause long enough to listen to the other. Dr. Stephen R. Covey once said, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” Once you understand what the other side wants and why, you can better articulate your views and why they are important to you. Plus, seeking to understand shows integrity and builds trust needed to reach a compromise.
  2. Clear communication of “must haves” (and why) – Compromise is often lost because each side “wants it all.” In reality, sides typically have only a few things or elements that are “not negotiable.” Taking the time to clearly communicate those imperatives and why they are important can often open the door to ways to reach a favorable middle ground.
  3. Recognition of the benefits of compromise (or the risks of failure) – During the course of negotiations, it is often important for you to envision both what success and failure look like. In other words, what is the value of getting at least some of what you want versus nothing? Is partial success better than complete failure? Knowing that you may have to “give more than you desire” to get at least some of the benefits may motivate you to a higher probability of success.
  4. Strength to give up something to get something – Compromise takes strength! Anyone can dig in and demand that they get everything they want… or else, no deal! But, a successful compromise often involves setting aside your pride and giving more than you hoped, to get more than you expect… or deserve. Be realistic about what you must have and be open to the rest.
  5. Openness to ask, “How can we work together to make something good happen?” – This question is often unasked for negotiations that fail. Taking the time to simply open the discussion to anything reasonable that can get the parties closer. Holding unreasonable or overly firm convictions without any willingness to work together for the common good will almost certainly doom the deal.

In old Savannah, a failure to compromise on the city squares would certainly have resulted in a loss to all of us. We can thank those individuals that “gave some to get some” for saving those beautiful squares. What about you? Are you willing to move off your own immovable position for the greater good? Is there some opportunity in your life right now that can benefit from the 5 key elements of compromise listed above?

Thanks for what you do to make this world a better place. After all, today could be our best day yet! Don’t miss it!

 

*Hopefully, this is a true story.  I couldn’t verify it, but, in any event, it is a good story that ties into the theme of compromise.

The Lamb that changed my life

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We cover quite a broad set of topics on The Porch… from leadership to encouragement to self-improvement to GXP compliance and everything else in-between. However, today is the day Christians world-wide call Good Friday. So, I thought we would spend a few words talking about that day around two thousand years ago when the Lamb of God died on an old wooden cross.

You see, from the beginning of time, God has required a blood sacrifice to atone or make up for our sin (our separation from God). We have all sinned and we fall short of God’s requirements for our lives, so a sacrifice for our sin is required to restore us to God’s favor. In the old days, the required sacrifice to make up for our sin was a perfect, young, helpless lamb. The lamb became a symbol for the ultimate sacrifice… the Lamb of God dying on a cross in our place.  Yes, He died in our place… He was perfect (without sin), but He willingly paid our debt on the cross. And, on the third day – the first Easter – Jesus was raised from the dead and now lives. His death, burial, and resurrection paid our debt “in full.” There is nothing else required that we can do to be restored to God except to believe in Jesus and to accept the gift He gave us.

The Lamb of God made all the difference to me… He changed my life! He gave me hope for the future and made my life now meaningful and complete. Knowing and accepting the amazing gift that Jesus gave guarantees me eternal life in heaven with Him. Nothing I could have done in my own strength would have made this possible. Only my belief (or faith) in Him is acceptable. It is just that easy… believe in Him.

The Lamb of God will also be in our eternal future. In the Bible book of Revelation (chapters 4 and 5), we are promised that the creatures of heaven will be singing:

“Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God Almighty, who was, and is, and is to come… Worthy is the Lamb, who was slain, to receive power and wealth and wisdom and strength and honor and glory and praise.” – Revelation 4:8 and 5:12 (click on link below)

The same Lamb, represented in ancient times by the sacrificial lamb… the One that died in our place on that first Good Friday… the One proclaimed in heaven as worthy… made all the difference to me and my life. On this Good Friday and Easter celebration weekend, give Him the chance to do the same for you!

“For God so loved the world that He gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.” – John 3:16

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ApkXjRY0mQ

Characters of our past

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I was thinking of the people of my past the other day and how they may have helped shaped my views of the world. My fraternal grandfather died in 1975 when I was only twenty years old. I only remember him as an elderly man that liked to hunt, fish, and garden. His most active years occurred before I was old enough to know him well. However, there are several things I do know about him:

  • He and my grandmother raised ten children. Each became a productive member of society and valued hard work, care for each other, and love of family.
  • He served in World War I in the Army. I have a medal he was awarded (see photo) for his service in the Battle of Argonne Forest in France in 1918. This was the largest and bloodiest battle in the war and cost over 26,000 US lives with another nearly 100,000 wounded. My grandfather also suffered nerve gas exposure during the war.
  • He loved to gamble. I am told my grandfather was a terrific poker player and once, playing with funds fronted by an “investor”, won a farm and a pool hall in card games. I vaguely recall going to the pool hall as a youngster and getting a chocolate cola from his vending machine.
  • My grandfather was “old school” about helping around the house. After all, he farmed and ran a pool hall. However, family members talk about him helping my grandmother with household chores for ten days after each child was born. After day 10, he was back outside and my grandmother resumed running the house.
  • My grandfather (and grandmother) were generous people. After one of my aunts died of cancer, they took in her only son and raised him as one of their own. And, his brother-in-law (my grandmother’s brother) lived with them in their home for years because he had no other place to live.

Why do I recount this today? I can see how these few facts about my grandfather influenced my father who, in turn, had a significant impact on me. My father also served his country in the military and passed down a keen sense of country and patriotism to me. My father was competitive in games, sports, and life and he passed that down to me, as well. I gained my love for family and appreciation for proper work/life balance from them. I also love to hunt, fish, and enjoy the out of doors. I can clearly see how influential my grandfather was in my own life despite the sparse interaction we really had over the twenty years of my life until he died.

Whether we know it or not… whether we want it or not… our lives are impacting those around us. Nothing we say has as much impact as what we do and how we live to those around us. In fact, our actions effectively drown out almost all our words. Another example…

My wife and her cousin were recently talking about their common grandparents. I was fascinated to hear them both talk about how loving they were and how inclusive they were when children were brought into the family by marriage. They talked about how their grandparents accepted these children as though they were their very own from the first time they ever saw them. This love and acceptance was deeply imprinted on these cousins… actions, not words, made the difference.

Today might be a good day to consider how your life is affecting those around you. Are you leaving an impression that will be spoken of in 50 years as loving, caring, and inclusive? Or, will your actions be remembered as something else? Are you modeling character, integrity, and virtue to those around you, or is it something else? Take a few minutes today to pause and reflect on your own “characters from the past” and what impact they had on your life. It is my hope that those that come after us will fondly remember the positive impact we each had on their lives.

Today, I remember and thank my grandfather (Elza Henson) for his life of service and influence and what it still means to me after all these years.

Advice from Will Rogers for today

 

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Will Rogers was a famous American philosopher, actor, humorist and author known for his simple, common sense approach to life. Today, we look at a few of his quotes and how they relate to where we are individually on our journey.

  • To be successful, you cannot sit still and rest on your laurels

“Even if you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” – Will Rogers

Rogers correctly observed that we cannot stay where we are and expect to get ahead. We must continue working to enhance our skills, continue taking measured risks, and continue being competitive to stay ahead. This not only applies to our work life, but personal lives, as well. If we become complacent, we tend to become lazy and lose our edge no matter what activity we tackle.

  • We learn more when we listen than we we talk

“Never miss a good chance to shut up.” – Will Rogers

Rogers was an astute observer of people. Many of his more famous quotes deal with the ways that people act in order to impress others. He found that many failed to stop talking long enough to actually hear what others are saying, thus, they miss the opportunity to learn. Too many people are more interested in what they will say next than what the other party is saying. We should take his advice and “shut up” long enough to allow others to add value.

  • Take the time to stop and smell the roses – we may never walk this way again

“Half our life is spent trying to find something to do with the time we have rushed through life trying to save.” – Will Rogers

It is hard to believe that Will Rogers died in 1935, yet could understand how we live our lives in such a rush today! Life passes quickly enough without our efforts to push it even faster. And, in the process, we fail to enjoy the life we have before us today. I recently learned of a former colleague that died unexpectedly of a heart attack at age 53. This individual was highly dedicated and worked at work very hard. In fact, he had stretches of time that entailed traveling weeks at a time. This demonstrates to me again that life is fragile and we must never put work (or any other activity) ahead of those more important things in our lives… people! We should not allow work to push aside our friends, our families, or others that we love or hold dear. Don’t rush through life to the point of losing that which is of utmost importance! Rogers also said:

“Lord, let me live until I die.” – Will Rogers

Are you really living?

  • Do something you believe in

“If you want to be successful in life, it’s just this simple. Know what you are doing. Love what you are doing. And believe in what you are doing.” – Will Rogers

Most people that aren’t successful or happy in life do not love or believe in what they are doing. Most unsuccessful or unhappy people either are on auto-pilot or they go from one thing to another hoping to find that thing they can love and believe in. Finding that one thing often takes intentionality. In other words, you may have to make a special effort to find “that one thing.” Or, you may have to stop doing what you can’t believe in to dedicate yourself fully to that pursuit of “that one thing.” Is Will Rogers nudging you today to look at your own lack of success or happiness differently?

Is today the day you begin doing something you’ve never done before? Think about what Will Rogers might be saying to you and how your life might be different, starting now.

Have a great day!

 

The Porch discusses… self-improvement

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Who doesn’t want to improve some aspect of their life? Who doesn’t want to be better at something? Who doesn’t need to be better at relationships, better at their job, or better performing some task? Or, who wouldn’t want a better, more healthy approach to life and its challenges? Today, you’ll find a compilation of 58 prior posts dealing with the topic of self-improvement. Hopefully, somewhere here you can find something that applies to your situation today. Or, feel free to pass this along to someone else you know that might benefit from some of these topics.

Have a terrific day!  Remember, this could be your very best day yet… there is still that chance!

 

  • Identifying and dealing with our hidden biases

“No amount of darkness can overcome any amount of light”

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It is said that the human eye can see the light of a single candle on a dark night about 30 miles away. Amazing! This again confirms the wonderful miracle we call your eyes. But, it also helps demonstrate my view that any bit of light can overcome any amount of light.

Remember when you were a child on one of those nights when you feared the dark. The tiniest sliver of light from an adjoining room was enough to fend off the gobblins that might have been watching or stalking you. I remember suffering through a couple long nights in my adult life when sleep was elusive. Seeing that first hint of daylight provided a sense of relief and calm that made the world right again.

Let’s admit it… there is much darkness in our world today. We don’t have to recount it here. But, the presence of even a small amount of light can make a difference. Family, friends, or colleagues struggling through difficult times need the pinpoint of light we can provide. We may hold the light today that chases away the fear and anxiety facing them today.

The message today is simple… be the light that someone else needs. Be the kind word that is unexpected, yet needed. A simple act may be enough to light the way for someone in the darkness. Use today as an opportunity to light the way and provide a hand of help to someone in your pathway.

Enjoying the shade of someone else’s tree

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My wife and I recently enjoyed a road trip to the beautiful cities of Savannah, GA and Charleston, SC. Amazing beauty in each city! In Savannah, you can enjoy dozens of wonderful city squares filled with flowers, trees, sculptures, fountains, and history. In Charleston, you are surrounded by history, well-preserved homes dating to the 18th century, and stories of our founding fathers. Both cities feature huge, spreading live oak trees that provide vast shade and unspeakable beauty.

I was struck by the expansive shade provided by the live oak trees.  A single tree, possibly over 300 years old, could provide shade for an area nearly the size of a city block!  This shade makes the area tolerable in the summer heat and provides a canopy that soothes, promotes calm, and helps encourage conversation and community. We get to enjoy all this because someone, perhaps three centuries ago, thought beyond their immediate needs and planted a tree they knew would never provide shade for themselves. We enjoy the benefits today from the work of an individual years ago.

How does this apply to us today?  As we look at our role as leaders, models, and shapers, planting now to benefit those that come after us matters. Here are a few ways our work now to build a stronger future can make a difference:

  • Developing future leaders – Helping to develop tomorrow’s leaders is planting a tree that will benefit others for decades.  Find a way; take the time; seek a means to pour your life into the development of others.
  • Continuous improvement – When we do the hard work today to make things better (or by eliminating today’s problems), we are paying it forward to those that come after us. Let’s not pass along today’s problems to those that fill our shoes tomorrow.
  • Responsible parenting – Our primary job as parents is to create independent, responsible adults that will serve others and benefit society. When we become facilitators of anything less, we fail those that come after us.
  • Innovation – Let’s face it… we are living in a world filled with technology and wonders our grandparents would never have believed possible. Yet, many of them paved the way for us. We must support and encourage new things, new ways, and out-of-the-box thinking that leads to innovation.
  • Education – Investments in education always pay off, though, in many cases, years down the road. Doing our part now can make a difference to many not even yet born.
  • Investing in others – By giving of ourselves to benefit others, we are planting those expansive “live oak trees” that will shade the generations to come. Failing to invest in others leads only to discouragement and a failure to thrive.
  • Sacrifice – Planting a tree for someone else requires our personal sacrifice. We must buy the tree, dig the hole, place the tree, water and nurture it, and prune it to allow it to grow and mature. Making those sacrifices may not benefit us personally, but we can be sure that someone else, down the road, will enjoy the benefit of our labors, much as we enjoy the labors today of those that planted before us.
  • Service – Being “givers” not “takers” benefits everyone. A leader is merely a servant in disguise. When we serve others, we model behavior and actions that will shape the future leaders.
  • Kindness – There is never a time that kindness is not warranted. When we are kind to others, we demonstrate a form a “paying it forward” that is multiplied to others.
  • Integrity – Integrity always pays. How many of us look back to individuals of character that helped mold who we are and what we do? We need to shape those that come after us in the same way.

My parents were part of what is called, “The Greatest Generation.” This is the group that sacrificed during two world wars, survived the great depression, and led to way to the modern, convenient way-of-life we now enjoy. Their sacrifices, in many ways, made our lives possible today. They “planted trees” under which we enjoy shade today.

One of today’s problems in society is that too many are interested only in “what’s in it for me.” Getting our “payback” quickly is the expectation. Enjoying everything “I am entitled to get” is the norm.  It is my personal belief that too few individuals are willing to plant a tree for someone else to enjoy years or centuries from now. Too few are willing to sacrifice now for someone that they may never even meet.

But, I say that there is still goodness in the world. Most individuals will make the long-term investment in others. Most, given the encouragement or the opportunity, will lay the groundwork to make life better for someone else. Are you one of these? Are you willing to “plant a tree” today?

Today, you are enjoying the shade of someone else’s tree. It might be the shade of someone that paved the way for career opportunities. It may be the shade of the tree that your parents or grandparents planted for you. It may be the shade of a teacher or a coach or a mentor or a boss or a spouse or a friend. This would be a great day to say thanks, if you can find who planted that tree. At the very least, today would be a great day to pass it forward by planting a tree that you will never personally enjoy… but, one that will make a difference for someone else.

The Porch discusses… GXP compliance and quality

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Today, The Porch includes a compilation of 7 previous postings that deal with the areas of GXP compliance (mostly relating to pharmaceutical compliance) and the general topic of quality (not settling for less than great).  Hopefully, you’ll find this useful.  And, if you have a topic of interest to you that you would like The Porch to address in the future, please feel free to include your suggestion to me in a comment or separately.  Have one of your “best days yet”!

The Porch discusses… wisdom

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Those that seek to learn from others are wise. So, today on The Porch, we highlight previous posts that quote other, very wise individuals. We cover a broad spectrum of “experts”… from Winnie the Pooh to Benjamin Franklin and everyone in between. If you need wisdom today, you will likely find it someplace in the links below. Enjoy and have a great day!